Dream: A man is using a garden hose to clean a bunch of things. He brings it inside and starts spraying our bed with it. I ask him to stop. He ignores me continuing to spray the water. Now, I am really angry. I am yelling at him now pleading for him to stop. I tell him that the bed will end up with a mildew smell. When he finally stops, I lie down on the bed. I don’t feel angry anymore. Somehow I realize that it was OK that he did that.
Anger. I can’t really relate to it. Other people have anger. I don’t approve of it. I am a kind, calm person. So what is anger doing in my dream? It’s hard for to me to understand but this anger scenario is there for a reason. The animus is setting up the provoking scene to show me that I feel anger. But that’s not all. He is also showing me that when I feel anger, I don’t stay with the feeling of it. I let it go. I lie down on a wet bed and act like all is well. Rodger suggests that I am being deceived by my pathology to give up the anger. Underneath the anger is a deeper feeling that the pathology doesn’t want me to get to. But I can’t even get to the anger because I deny that I could be angry. “ I realize that it was OK that he did that.” But really, it is realistic for me to be angry here. If a man came into my room right now and started spraying my bed with water, I would be angry. I would yell at him to stop. So that is what the animus is doing. He is provoking me to become angry but he is doing it to show me how I don’t stay with that feeling.
I am surprised by this dream and what it is telling me. The image of me lying on a wet bed and being OK with it is unsettling. Are there places in my life where I settle for “lying on a wet bed” because I won’t allow myself to feel anger?
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